Body Shaming: When You Are The One Doing It
This week’s featured Innerform article is from Lisa Thompson, founder of Self Love Beauty, PR professional and fitness instructor. Read on to learn how she combats body shaming herself and urges you to do the same! Lisa is a self-love advocate and dedicates her life to empowering others.
Body Shaming. Two words used to describe when someone besides yourself is shaming your body. However, sometimes the person body shaming is your own self.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and stared at everything you didn’t like about yourself? Maybe picking at the extra fat on your stomach, an untoned area or even some cellulite you have carried over the years? I have.
Have you ever thought you couldn’t wear white skinny jeans, skinny jeans in general or shorts because of how your body was? I have.
Have you ever just wished your body looked like someone else’s? I have.
If you have, you have body shamed your own self. If I am being honest, I know I am my biggest critic. When I was younger I used to body shame myself a lot, without even knowing it. I missed out on swimming events and avoided anything with tight clothes because I felt I was too ‘fat’ to wear those items like my friends. However, I learned that body shaming myself made me miss out on amazing opportunities like swimming events, beach days and more. It made me miss out on life.
We blame society for a lot of body shaming instances because it is one of the reasons we pick at each other. However, as I have gotten older I have noticed when I talk to girls, we never body shame each other – we body shame ourselves.
We are always making comments about what looks good or bad on us – how much weight we want to lose or how unhappy we are with our bodies.
Consciously, I don’t even think we realize it. We compare, we pick and we get upset over the little pieces of our bodies instead of loving everything about who we are.
Body shaming comes from…
- Criticizing your own appearance, through a judgment or comparison to another person. (i.e.: “I’m so ugly compared to her.” “Look at how broad my shoulders are.”)
- Criticizing another’s appearance in front of them, (i.e.: “With those thighs, you’re never going to find a date.”)
- Criticizing another’s appearance without their knowledge. (i.e.: “Did you see what she’s wearing today? Not flattering.” “At least you don’t look like her!”).
The first of these three ways to body shame is the most common one we seem to do.
Body shaming yourself does not create self-love. Self-love is a constant battle we are trying to fight. The less we body shame ourselves and focus on what really matters, life becomes so much more amazing.
I am challenging each of you to recognize the next time you are body shaming yourself and use it as an opportunity to stop it. Instead, smile in the mirror and give yourself a compliment.
Remember the only way to create change is to live it.
Do you have a #BeautifulShame Story that you want to share? Send an email to email@example.com that outlines: 1). Your struggle 2). How you’ve used creativity as an outlet to deal with it 3). How you feel now. — Feel free to include photos, videos, music, poetry, or anything else!