Beauty is a Perspective
This week’s featured Innerform article is from content contributor and professional costume designer, Nina Vartanian. Read on to learn how she broke through society’s definition of beauty and created her own perspective. Whether Nina is creating a custom piece for a client or writing an article, Nina’s passion for communication and collaboration is the driving force behind this storyteller’s journey.
Beauty is a Perspective
Beauty is a perspective. What it is not, is finite. When I was young girl growing up in the Pacific Northwest, my perspective on beauty was that it was love. In my young mind I thought if you were beautiful it meant you were loved. This may seem an innocent statement, however, that is based upon what your perspective of beauty actually is. I can tell you right now that when I was growing up, the perspective I had on beauty was not a positive or empowering factor in my life.
Let me explain what I mean by saying “beauty” is an expectation that started in my youth. As something that I “should” be, because I am a female; part of my role in society is to be beautiful. To take this one step further, part of my role is to be beautiful for men.
Conditioned from Birth
This is an expectation reinforced by so much of what surrounds us – from the toys offered to us as children, to the products and media we consume, to the history we are taught. It seeps into our subconscious and tells us what our perspective is. Our perspective can be manipulated in the most unassuming way, such as, someone else’s influence, in a completely non-threatening environment. Compliments from adults like, “She is so cute!!” or “What big eyes she has!!” are statements that start to shape our perspective.
This perspective was reinforced by society around me, by the princess movies I watched and the Barbie dolls I had. Perhaps the strongest drive came from the expectations placed upon me both subconsciously and consciously, by the adults I wanted to please. The result of consuming this day-to-day imagery – the women on magazine covers, the women in the commercials, the women on television, the women I saw constantly as succeeding – all gave me a specific perspective of beauty. This is a perspective I have carried with me my whole life, whether I want to or not.
What I have very recently realized is that what I thought of as being beautiful was based off ideas that never came from me. Why am I holding myself to a standard I never defined? Why not create my own standard from ideas that I have chosen?
This is the journey that I am going to share with you; I am redefining what is beautiful through my own ideas. I am going to give myself a new perspective of what I think is beautiful because perspectives can change, perspectives should change, and the personal growth from this change is going to be a beautiful thing.
Do you have a #BeautifulShame Story that you want to share? Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org that outlines: 1). Your struggle 2). How you’ve used creativity as an outlet to deal with it 3). How you feel now. — Feel free to include photos, videos, music, poetry, or anything else!